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Post by cam on Mar 4, 2007 8:14:02 GMT -5
You discover that your best friends hubby/wife/partner..blah blah...is having an affair.
Do you tell your friend.?
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Post by emoking on Mar 4, 2007 10:50:54 GMT -5
Too damn right you do.
That has happened with me, well a couple of people I'm friends with, I told them.
Its not nice, but its the best way. I'd rather a friend found out from me, than in a worse way, if you know what I mean.
And people might say its no one else business, but it is if its your best friend and they are going to get hurt.
ggrrrr.... makes me angry.
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Post by cam on Mar 4, 2007 14:28:02 GMT -5
That would be my first thought but what if its just your word against the cheaters?
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Post by emoking on Mar 5, 2007 4:16:55 GMT -5
Well if they are cheating then one way or another they would get caught out anyway, eventually. And if they are definately cheating then there will be something at least, that will prove it. If they are cheating, then you know, people will find out and it won't be hard to find out, trust me.
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Post by Millie on Mar 8, 2007 6:10:36 GMT -5
No keep your nose out. Is not your business to interfere. They may already know about it and be keeping quiet for all kinds of reasons and only they have the right to know what those reasons are. If they don't know then it will come out without your help and you might have got the wrong end of the stick anyway.
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Post by cam on Mar 8, 2007 8:57:30 GMT -5
I actually agree with you both. Yes,the truth will come out on its own in the end. I agree Millie that the friend who is being cheated on may well already know and is allowing it to go on. Many people dont want to know the truth and there is a danger that the messenger could get' shot.'
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Post by emoking on Mar 9, 2007 14:21:26 GMT -5
I think its wrong that anyone should cheat, so if my friend is being cheated on and I know for a fact they are, I will tell them. I'd rather they found out from me, their friend, than any other way, which could easily be worse. And it is my business if it is my friend that is going to get hurt. Obviously if I wasn't sure they were cheating I would keep quiet, but if I knew for definate I would tell them. And I would make it my business because I care about my friends.
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Post by cam on Mar 9, 2007 14:25:38 GMT -5
I agree emo and hope that if it came to it I would be able to tell my friend what is going on.
I can see the sense in both the yes tell and no dont posts though.
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Post by emoking on Mar 9, 2007 14:29:02 GMT -5
I can understand why people would say no too.
But at the end of the day, you know your friends and depending on how close you are, you often know the situation they are in most of the time. So then when there is trouble, you know. But even then, I wouldn't blab straight away, I'd only say something if I knew for certain something was going on and if I thought it was the wrong thing to do I wouldn't do it.
I'd do it again if I knew anything was happening to one of my friends, I can't stand it.
But I guess I can say that easily, cos we are a close circle of friends so we know alot about what is going on with each other anyway.
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Post by cam on Mar 9, 2007 14:40:05 GMT -5
I think that is the key..knowing your friends and knowing how to tell them.
I would be wary though in case as millie says...they knew and were just letting it go. They might not thank you for bringing it up. Still,I think I might take that risk.
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Post by emoking on Mar 9, 2007 14:44:09 GMT -5
Yeah that is true and thats why I wouldn't say anything unless I was certain and I wasn't wrong. It all depends on who it is and the situation.
All you can do is what you think is the right thing to do at the time I guess.
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Post by cam on Mar 9, 2007 14:48:50 GMT -5
Sometimes doing the right thing is not appreciated but I always do what I feel is right anyway.
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Post by emoking on Mar 9, 2007 14:52:05 GMT -5
Yeah I know that. Thats true. But like I said, I know my friends well enough and most of the time I know everything about their life and what is going on... so when I find out someone is cheating on them, I find out more and if I'm right and I think its the right thing to do, I will tell them, in the best possible. If it were me I'd rather hear it from my friend, who was only looking out for me, than finding out any other way. But I'm just gonna shut up now, repeating myself.
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Post by cam on Mar 9, 2007 14:57:57 GMT -5
You made a good point about hearing it from a friend rather than through some other means. Lets have a few drinkies in the bar shall we..it is friday.
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Post by emoking on Mar 9, 2007 15:00:09 GMT -5
I can understand either way tbh. Sounds like a good plan to me.
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Post by cam on Mar 9, 2007 15:04:26 GMT -5
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Post by cam on Mar 13, 2007 6:20:34 GMT -5
You find a purse or wallet full of money but it has no id.
Do you keep it or take it to the police station.
Me..I would have to take it in regardless.
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Post by emoking on Mar 13, 2007 10:13:30 GMT -5
Take the money, hand the purse/wallet in. I shouldn't laugh.... its not really funny, but if I don't take it (the money that is) the pigs will, I've heard stories about this kind of thing...
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Post by cam on Mar 13, 2007 10:23:28 GMT -5
The police have to fill out form which they give to you and if the purse/wallet is not claimed within three months it comes to you..money and all.
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Post by emoking on Mar 13, 2007 16:47:23 GMT -5
Thats what they are supposed to do. But its not what they do, they keep it themselves after a month or so. Well around here they do anyway... the scumbags! grrr... ;D
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Post by cam on Mar 13, 2007 17:03:01 GMT -5
Must be more honest here then as my daughter and son both found purses before and the police actually delivered them to the door for them after three months.
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Post by Millie on Mar 13, 2007 17:36:58 GMT -5
If it was outside a shop I would hand it in to the shop so the person could check there for it when they realised it hadgone. Wouldn't keep it as my conscience wouldn't let me.
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Post by cam on Mar 13, 2007 17:42:54 GMT -5
I would do the same if it was outside a shop ect.
Could never keep it.
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Post by emoking on Mar 14, 2007 7:53:31 GMT -5
Well there you go I'm northern scum so what do you expect. But if it was outside a shop I would give it the shop person, I'm not that evil.
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Post by cam on Mar 14, 2007 14:00:15 GMT -5
Awwwww.you no scum.
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Post by emoking on Mar 14, 2007 15:05:30 GMT -5
I am, obviously.
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Post by cam on Jul 22, 2007 5:24:42 GMT -5
You are a psychiatrist and your patient has just confided to you that he intends to kill a woman. You're inclined to dismiss the threat as idle, but you aren't sure. Should you report the threat to the police and the woman or should you remain silent as the principle of confidentiality between psychiatrist and patient demands? Should there be a law that compels you to report such threats? ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------- I would surely have the power to section the man and would do so without hesitation..just in case.
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Post by junius on Feb 28, 2008 10:52:49 GMT -5
You discover that your best friends hubby/wife/partner..blah blah...is having an affair. Do you tell your friend.? I would be careful before jumping into something in which I probably haven't got all of the facts. We never know/ or can know what is going on behind closed doors. They might have an open marriage or they are both into it... or the marriage is dead and they are just trying to make the best of a bad job.
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Post by TOPGUN on Apr 14, 2008 14:27:27 GMT -5
Not if my best friend's wife/partner was having an affair with me *evil grin*
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Post by cam on Apr 14, 2008 15:39:21 GMT -5
Not if my best friend's wife/partner was having an affair with me *evil grin* Oh you are naughty. Good point junius.
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